What will Valentine’s Day be for you? What are you expecting to receive that will show you that you are loved and valued? Jewels? Flowers? Nice romantic dinner? All with rather limited value. What if you get nothing? What if someone demands you prove your love for that individual? “Love” gets a bad rap in a hurry.
Some days I long for a husband who would cherish me, demonstrate real love to me. Some days I whine at God about it all. Maybe you have, too. Maybe your reasons are like mine but maybe not. Does God respond to our whining like that?
The best Valentine’s Day card I ever received
I remember the morning this verse floated through my mind as I came awake.
8 Let me hear of your unfailing love each morning, for I am trusting you. Show me where to walk, for I give myself to you. Psalm 143:8 (NLT2)
What if the first words I “heard” at the beginning of each day were God telling me He loved me? We can hear words that aren’t audible. Words God speaks down in our souls. One morning I asked God what He would say to me about His unfailing love, and how that could change my day. How does being reminded of God’s unfailing love for me change the way I feel inside? The words began to flow inside like the best Valentine’s Day card I ever received.
I know I’m sheltered, protected and secure. I know I’m accepted and valued. I know I’m cared for attentively. I know I’m not abandoned, but He will go with me all day long. I know He cares about my soul and will fill me with joy. I know when I talk to Him, He will answer me.
I know if I make mistakes, God is slow to get angry and will be patient with me and will forgive me and comfort me. He will even keep my mistakes from completely undoing me. I know He is the one who celebrates who He says I am and He cheers me on. I know He will bring good gifts to me because He is never the source of bad ones. I know He will keep the promises He makes in Scripture.
God’s description of real love
Would this “card” describe real love for you?
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails…. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a
One morning God began to reframe those words for me in a very healing way. It no longer matters what happens or doesn’t happen on Valentine’s Day. I know I am deeply cherished and cared for by One who will never fail to love me with real love. I’ll be vulnerable with you and share these precious words; perhaps they will heal you and assure you of real love today.
“I will always be patient with you. I will never laugh at you or ridicule you. I am not a husband who rejects you. I will never betray you. I will always be patient with you because I remember that you are human and will fail sometimes. I will treat you kindly and draw you to My plan for you with My unfailing love for you. I will always consider your feelings because I know your heart has been broken and I value your feelings. I am always looking for ways to help you and support you, not ways to harm you. I will never be trying to find someone to take your place, looking for someone who pleases Me more or does a “better job” of what I’m asking you to do. I will be a faithful husband. I will never force myself on you in any way. I will never insist on My way; we are partners together so I cherish our fellowship, our intimate relationship, too much to crush you like that. I will never fly off the handle in a rage at you over anything, whether petty or even significant. I don’t keep track of your mistakes or constantly point out your weaknesses. I don’t recall at all your mistakes even though I know you are weak in areas; I honor you, even in your weaknesses. So when we are talking, I will never bring up either your mistakes or your weaknesses. I get very excited when you learn something new, when you really recognize another bit of My truth, when it connects in your heart and changes you. I know that is a process of little by little, and I don’t care that it takes a while. I’m confident of My ability to transform you, to bring you from the brokenness to what I have designed for you. I’m always hopeful, believing that you will see what I see in and for you. I never despair about our relationship. I’m your forever husband, through thick and thin, and My love for you will never waver. There is nothing you can do that will drive Me away. I mean that. My words are not idle talk. So don’t look back at the past in fear. I’m here for you.
A card for you
If I could give you a valentine today, I think I would send you this one. (photo via pexels.com)
17 The Lord your God is in the midst of you, a Mighty One, a Savior [Who saves]! He will rejoice over you with joy; He will rest [in silent satisfaction] and in His love He will be silent and make no mention [of past sins, or even recall them]; He will exult over you with singing. Zephaniah 3:17 (AMP)
This year on Valentine’s Day, it is my prayer that you realize more than ever how much you are deeply and forever loved.
Carol Boggess, author and speaker at A Healing Journey
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